A bossy kid may be the result of a family trait or a psychological need
in the child to conquer fear and insecurity, say psychological experts.
Whatever the reason, a child let too lenient can have a troubled future;
no one wants to be around a bossy character. His bossy behavior can
impact his relationships with people, and he may end up alone in the
future. Putting a break on your child's bossy behavior at an early age
is your responsibility as a parent.
Instructions:
1.Exercise your parental rights when you encounter your child behaving in a
bossy manner. Explain to your child that you will not tolerate her
bossiness. Assume a stern posture; make eye contact with your child and
tell her in precise terms not to do what she is doing. "You have had
your turn with the toy. It's now your brother's turn. So, please give it
to him." Stop any comments that she may be about to make by saying: "I
don't want to argue with you. Just give it to him." The key here is to
act immediately.
2.
Convince your child that you will always be there by her
side. Parents often respond to their kids' aggressive behavior by
withdrawing from them. One of the reasons for bossy behaviors is a
feeling of insecurity, and children may mask this need for comfort and
security by acting out and exhibiting bossy behavior, say psychological
experts on Reader's Digest website. When you refuse to connect with your
child, you only feed more fear of insecurity, which makes the kid
bossier. Instead of withdrawing, spend more time with her on a daily
basis by playing, drawing or doing other joint activities. Steer the
conversation toward her behavior during these times when she feels
comfortable and secure. You may suggest this option: "You want your
favorite item every day on your dinner table. I cannot do that. Why
don't we try something like cooking your favorite food on the weekends
and going with what I do on the remaining days?
3. Model respectful behavior for your kids. Share "thank you,"
"sorry" and "please" during family interactions. Praise your kid when
she follows what you have said and controls her behavior. A hug is not
bad either. Such rewards encourage positive behavior.
4. Practice enforcing rules consistently. A one-time
implementation does not convey your seriousness to your kid, and she can
easily fall back to her earlier ways.
Tips & Warnings:
Avoid attempting to
enforce rules when there is a fight brewing among adults. A child
cannot learn in a hostile environment. Settle your fights before
enforcing discipline on your child.
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